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In Case You’re Forgetting to Choose Yourself Today

You forgot to choose yourself again, didn’t you? Don’t fret. We all do it, no matter how tough we think we are. There comes a time where we need to re-calibrate and try again.

We can’t always get it right, but we can always strive for optimal growth. Let’s shift ourselves back into our center.

Some Friendly Reminders

  1. It’s okay to NOT be okay.
  2. You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone.
  3. Do correct your mistakes when you’re wrong. It’s okay to be wrong.
  4. If you don’t feel supported by your friends tell them! Communicate.
  5. Your CAN achieve your goals, even if they’re far off.
  6. You deserve to see the beauty in everything without failing to see your own.
  7. Find ways to get excited, to replenish yourself, and to seek new challenges.
  8. Prioritize yourself and your needs without guilt.

We Forget Self-Care Because Our Culture Tells Us To

We work jobs where we’re penalized for taking sick days. Calling in induces panic and terror. We stress over the fact that our grief period for a loved one may exceed a week.

As a result, we become afraid of being human.

Despite contrary stimuli, you still deserve to take care of yourself. Don’t allow society to convince you otherwise. You’re not weak or needy because you need more time. Hell, we ALL need more time. You’re just the first to realize it.

Sometimes, We Don’t Think We’re Worthy

We get in a slump sometimes. We don’t believe we deserve to be happy. This can last one day or several months. It happens, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

If you can’t choose yourself because you feel unworthy, I recommend reading my book about self-esteem. These feelings can be overcome with practice and patience.

Just don’t forget that you deserve all the best in life, no matter what you feel today.

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How to Express Your Feelings, Even When You’re Wrong

It may be a hidden topic you didn’t know you needed to discuss. Yet, like many, you want to know how to express your feelings, even if you feel like you’re overreacting.

There’s a specific kind of danger we associate with expressing emotions, especially when we feel our emotional response is “wrong.” We’ve been conditioned to shy away from showing our feelings to avoid being seen as weak or hysterical to others.

Research shows that suppressing emotions can lead to problems with our health and mental well-being, yet many hesitate to explore healthy ways to overcome negative emotions.

Let’s discover a few ways to express ourselves, even when we feel like we’re being irrational.

Pause & Acknowledge

When you feel an overwhelming emotion setting in, it’s time to pause instead of react. You can count to ten, take deep breaths, or even excuse yourself to take a walk.

Then, it’s time to acknowledge the event that upset you. Did someone say something that angered you? Why does it anger you? Once you pinpoint where the emotion is coming from, don’t forget that it’s okay to feel what you’re feeling.

Take Action

Now that you know why you’re feeling the way that you do, it’s time to address it. Make sure you’re calm and ready to tackle a potentially difficult subject if necessary.

For instance, if someone said something that offended you, pinpoint why it offended you and calmly explain it to the individual. It’s important to be assertive and not aggressive or passive-aggressive in your approach. There are sheets on that here.

The Discomfort Won’t Last

The best news? Over time, it’ll become much more easier to identify the source of negative emotions and properly address them. It simply takes practice and time. You’re not going to get it right every time, and that’s okay.

Be Ready to Learn

You’re going to get it wrong sometimes. You’ll make a wrong assumption about something someone said, only to feel foolish for getting upset. Don’t let that deter you. We all make mistakes, and we all jump to conclusions.

The beauty of expressing your emotions is that there’s always an opportunity to learn from these mistakes. Take advantage of these opportunities as they arise and optimize your emotional growth.

Be Ready to Grow

Now that you know how to express your feelings, put it into practice! And don’t forget to take everything one day at a time.

Many who struggle with self-expression can also suffer from low self-esteem. I wrote a fairly handy book, Life After Low Self-Esteem, about overcoming those pesky self-doubts, and I encourage you to read it!